Toastmaster Regular Meeting
Date: 2021-07-09 12:00 - 13:30
Site: Novo Nordisk, Wangjing, Beijing
Role: Table Topic Master
这是一场小而精致的会议，所有的Function Role，Prepared Speech一应俱全，Alex作为Toastmaster，稳控全场，每一个转场都自然流畅，恰倒好处。当然还有Online的Jane。
我们还为新会员Annie和Nicole举办了入会仪式，有趣的是，她们都是曾经的Toastmasters会员，都由于一些特殊原因离开，待生活稳定之后，又出于对提高自己的渴求，重新加入Toastmasters这个大家庭。看来Toastmasters真的是会让人上瘾。
接下来就是我的主场，Table Topic环节，虽然我非常喜欢这个Role，但是由于准备的确实不充分（前一天晚上才想好开场词），整个开场磕磕绊绊。好在主题比较有趣，“Owe A Favor”，欠人情。大家也讨论的颇为尽兴。Christina的论点我很赞同：大多数时候，我们都不需要担心“Owe A Favor”，因为当你“Return it back”的时候，The relationship will be enhanced。
Christina的演讲绝对是本次会议的亮点，她非常专业流畅地向我们职场人传授“How to manage your boos”。第一，准确理解老板的意图；第二，向老板申请资源；第三，向老板寻求反馈。这三步是依次递进的，最终能使你出色地完成工作。
最后，我居然还获得了最佳Function Role地奖状，有点不好意思，下次我一定认真准备。
Table Topic Master
Good afternoon, I’m Ryan, table topic master of today’s meeting. During this section, I will share my stories and thoughts related to today’s topic. And you will have the chance standing on the stage, sharing your mind. No further ado, let’s start.
You may have noticed, today our topic is Owe A Favor (欠人情). I believe it’s quite an usual phenomenon for Chinese because we used to put a high value on the relationship with other people.
We will owe a favor to someone under plenty of situation, the most common one could be that you obtain some help from people. And after that, you may start to think about how to return it back. By aSSffording for a meal, or giving a present, you will have your own way.
But what if you owe a favor to someone, and then he asks you for help as well, not at your convenience. giving the help may keep you far away from your important work, or if you just reject, things may get worse, you can imagine what he will think about: What an ungrateful person, I gave my help but he just reject my request, I will never help him again.
This is a tough condition and actually I just encountered it recently. Last month, my mother did a physical examination and the doctor recommended to take out something from her body by a small operation. But she has been not caught up with mobile phone. As we know, to register at hospital, you need mobile phone, to check your health status, you need mobile phone, and even when paying money, you are suggested to use mobile phone. She just can’t figure these things out and then asked a doctor neighbour for help. Finally she finished the operation and everything went well. I am pretty grateful and want to thank her face to face. But when she heard that I am a software engineer, she believed I must be good at computer and want me to make a ppt for her. I just couldn’t say no at that moment. And it takes me nearly two days to organize the data and design the diagram. After that, I will have to work over and over time to make up the progress of my job.
I still feel grateful for her. But I also realize it’s hard to return the favor sometime. Have you ever owed favor to some one and how did you return it, now it’s you turn.
I prepared 8 questions for you, you can choose the question or just share the story about what kind of favor you have ever owed and how did you return it back.
- If some one owe a favor to you but never return it back, will you help him again?
- Will you return the favor by doing something you are not good at?
- Do you agree this statement: we can owe anything but not a favor?
- Will you feel pressure if you owe a favor to someone?
- Will you spend a lot of money just to avoid owing a favor?